Homily on the occasion of the Rite of Christian Burial for

Saundra Enany Faris

19 January 2018 – Saint John the Evangelist Church, Uniontown, PA

Gospel 18:1-5

On behalf of all of Saundra’s family members, I thank all of you who have come to pray with us today.  We ask your continued prayers for the repose of her soul the consolation of those who will continue to miss her.
I thank Father James Tringhese, the pastor of Saint John the Evangelist Church, for welcoming me to be with him and the altar and to offer some kind of reflection of what our faith teaches us at this difficult time.
Before we continue, I want to acknowledge the presence of Saundra’s four brothers, Jim, Rick, Michael and Mark.  They have suffered the loss of three sisters Alice, Kathy and now Saundra in a very short period..  Be sure of our prayers.
I am not going to recount any of the thousands of amusing anecdotes that we have of this very special lady.  Her life was too significant. We shall share and cherish them over the days to come. I am not going to deliver a eulogy.  The homily in the Mass is an occasion for us to reflect on faith.
Before I continue, I want the grandchildren to stand.  You kids were her world. To be honest, she was not always so terribly fond of her sons--this is understandable.  But she adored all of you.  You have a torch of love and warmth and compassion to carry on.
The Gospel passage that was proclaimed describes an incident that at first glance appears to be insignificant; but we find that is still being talked about 2,000 years after it happened.   Jesus takes a small child and places the child in the midst of his disciples, the people he was teaching. There is a tradition that says that this child grew up to be a powerful father and teacher of the Church, Saint Ignatius of Antioch.  That may or may not be factual, but in any case, what we have is a small child be called to stand in the  midst of all these adults.  One might be critical and say that Jesus was using this child as a teaching “prop.”
Jesus told his followers and tells us—very simply and very clearly—that we must become like a child if we want to enter the Kingdom of heaven.   Jesus is telling us to be “child like,” not “childish.” If Jesus is telling us this, we need to reflect on what it means to be “child like” so that we can be a part of the Kingdom of God.   What qualities does a child have that we need to imitate? Let’s reflect on a few.
A child does not really try to make a good impression.  They will say things like they are even if the story may make them look silly.   By not worrying about how they come off, the child is not focusing on himself, but is open to listening to the other person, to caring.
This is important not only in our relationships with others, but also with God.  Too often, our prayers with God are really nothing more than occasions when we try to convince God of how good we are, how much we love him and how much we deserve to be in the Kingdome of Heaven.  God already knows our strengths and weaknesses, our successes and failures.  He knows how we have shown him love and how we have failed to be loving.   And yet, we still try to hide our true selves from him.
A child always has time for others.  The child has no real concern for a schedule, so when someone comes along who wants to spend time, well, they have the time.
A child allows herself to be loved.   She approaches everyone, friends and strangers, with an open, loving heart, trusting that the others will be kind and loving and trustworthy.
A child will continue to trust others who have not been so kind with warm trust.   A child has a short memory.  They forgive and to move on.  Again they are not focused on themselves; they don’t linger on the hurt that they have endured at the hands of others.  They want to move on with relationships, to give others still another chance.
A child needs others.  Children need to be cared for and loved.  They allow for us to care for them, to be affectionate with them.  With regard to our life of faith, perhaps this is the most important.  God wants us to need him.  Jesus told his followers that it is difficult for a rich man to enter heaven because they don’t have a a real felt need for God.  God wants us to be like children and to want to be cared for.
I said at the beginning that I was not going to give a eulogy about my aunt Saundra.  After writing this reflection, I discover that I just gave Saundra’s eulogy.  Saundra possesses all those child like qualities I describe and for that reason, I am confident that she is now sharing in the joy of the Kingdom of God.